A new kind of Dating, a new kind of Seminar

Shift an event to a procedure

Early in the development of Dating 360° we asked: What kind of seminar would make a difference in the lives of our participants long term? A person often comes to a traditional event and:

1.) Is exposed to an information download and often overload
2.) Seldom associates with the other people at the event in a substantive way
3.) Doesn’t implement the material in a way that affects the people closest to them
4.) Doesn’t therefore experience real lasting change

We chose to offer a totally different kind of event. The seminar:

1.) Spurs on the person’s “make a difference” momentum.
2.) Participants come to know the person sitting next to them, they know their “make a difference momentum” and know their feelings about the seminar material.
3.) The content has already been delivered and experienced before the person arrives so they can ask questions.
4.) Defers and stimulates action after the event automatically.
5.) Small groups use content in behalf of other participants.
6.) Involves participants so they come ready to contribute.
7.) People’s natural relationships continue the transformation at home.

This type of event we’ve developed we call an “un-event”. Un-events are centered around not just coming but becoming. Through un-events participants transition from the mindset of events to “the process of becoming”.

Participants will often be invited to a follow-up un-event 3 months later in the same place and with many of the same people. The un-event will then work even better because they will have more to share and contribute.  As the web services expand we will make these contributions available to all of the other participants so they can be rated and used by all. We combine the best that people have to offer all over the nation and perhaps eventually the world.

After the first seminar we introduce books and resources taking you to the next level for the following un-event.  We encourage the use of all available resources on the subject and to communicate with the other participants (using the teams to kick off the dialog) in their area regarding experiences and innovations in the new frontier of “procedural dating”.

Because the seminar is a type of event, we are using it as a model un-event (and date). Usually events are thought of as the substance of time. We look forward to them and then spend time remembering about and recovering from them. The problem is that our day to day routines and habits do not seem to be affected by events. Lasting change happens as we integrate what we become into our daily life.

The seminar “Becoming: The Dating Revolution” will likely be the first time participants experience aspects of the “un-event” style seminar.